The first Mind Master workshop was a great success!  I would like to thank all of my wonderful participants who joined me in exploring the topic of stress and contributing to a rich and enlightening experience.  It was a riveting session from the start and we covered much ground, ending with raucous laughter, heartfelt sharing and bonds of connection that revealed the beauty of small groups.

Shared learning is powerful.  It opens our eyes to different perspectives and allows us to gain a broader understanding of life.  It helps us to put our own situation into perspective and assess our own life with more objectivity.  Most importantly, shared learning brings us together and normalizes our experiences in life, helping us to realize that we are not alone in our journey.

It was empowering to see the group work alongside one another and grow during our two hours together.  Everyone benefited from the workshop: “Stressed spelled backwards is desserts!”  It is a simple message that reveals the power of perspectives.  Change your thinking, change your life.  Join me for a workshop and see for yourself.

Close your eyes for a moment and envision the ocean.  See the vast horizon before you.  It appears endless as everything in the distance is hazy and unclear.  In contrast, you can see with great clarity what is directly below your feet and in front of you.  Life is just like that.

Oftentimes, we get busy tending the pebbles and sand beneath our feet.  We forget to look further to see what is out there.  Perhaps there is a lighthouse, a sailboat, or some rescue apparatus.  Perhaps there are playful dolphins or seals bobbing in the water, or maybe birds soaring above.  It might just be the soothing rhythmic sounds of ocean waves, waiting for you to settle into a quiet moment of relaxation.  Remember to look up once in a while to see what is in your horizon.  Make time to enjoy the view and ponder the possibilities that lie ahead of you.

The dictionary defines yuk as a hearty laugh.  The thesaurus reveals yuk is a variation of yuck, an exclamation: “Yuck! What is this slimy green stuff?” and then goes on to provide other words with similar meaning including: “ick, ugh, yech, blech, phew, eeew, gross”.  Reading these words makes me laugh and brings to mind comics and children’s books with lively stories of rollicking adventure and intrigue.  When was the last time you rollicked in adventure?  When was the last time you indulged in a deep belly laugh?  If you can’t remember when, then perhaps you are overdue.

Laughter is Mother Nature’s cure for the stressful, harried lives that many adults lead today.  When life gets crazy, laughter is the perfect break to help you get through our day.  Laughter eases physical tension and relaxes our mind to endure the course.

If laughter does not come naturally to you or it is not a regular part of your daily routine, adopting the sunny approach to life requires practice.  There are many resources you can tap into for adopting a lighter approach to life.  Seek the company of light-hearted people who are fun to be around, collect amusing keepsakes that tickle your fancy, read comics and riddles that remind you of the hilarity of life, watch funny videos that bring a smile to your face and outward chuckle, and last but not least, adopt a playful attitude in life.  Be silly whenever you can and laugh at yourself often.  Being human involves making mistakes.  Embrace the gift of life and laugh every day.  Oh, by the way, you have spinach in your teeth … gotcha!

Open doors create opportunities.  They give you options to choose from and new areas to explore.  Consciously choose to open new doors to expand yourself and experience more vitality in life!

Sometimes we close doors or keep them closed by habit.  Sometimes we forget to open them.  We may block the flow of fresh air coming in, fresh ideas, and fresh new experiences and when we do this, we limit our potential.  This is what happens when we get comfortable in life and stay within our comfort zones.

Picture yourself in a room with 4 doors, one on each wall with every door closed.  There is no fresh air coming in or passing through.  It is comfortable in here since we are familiar with the surroundings but if we want to experience more in life and grow, we need to open doors and step beyond them.

Strive to open as many doors as possible.  If you are feeling a little timid about what is beyond each door, start by opening just door at a time.  Open it just a crack and allow yourself to peer outside.  Gradually, as you gain more comfort with the unfamiliar terrain, you can take one more step at time towards a whole new experience in life.  Open doors await your curiosity!

The one thing we always have in life is choice.  By that, I mean choice from within.  This is a very important concept to embrace when it comes to mental fitness and it is here where our control in life lies: in our choice of responses.

We may not have choice over external events but we always have choice from within ourselves.  Our thoughts and reactions can impact outcomes and they can definitely influence our experiences of them.  Positive thinking and solution-oriented actions are preferred but not always easy especially in the face of adversity.  Sometimes, all we can do is cope and do the best that we can do.

Choose a pro-active approach to wellness that involves strategies with long-term benefits.  Consciously choose responses that bring win-win and do not lead to greater problems or illness.  This is a key to living well.  What areas of your life are you making good choices for yourself and what areas could be improved?

Stress comes from internal sources as well as external.  Just as our environment induces stress, so too does our mind.  Apparently, we humans are the only mammals who create our own stresses from within.  Dr. Sapolsky highlights this fact in his book titled: “Why zebras don’t have ulcers”.  It is an amusing observation that reveals an important lesson for humans.

The main source of stress for zebras is the threat of survival.  In contrast, the source of stressors for humans varies greatly and includes anything from completing a task and getting somewhere on time to more serious life threatening issues.  It becomes evident that we all need to keep the big picture in mind as we go about our daily lives.  We all need to ask ourselves from time to time:  “Is this worth stressing over?”  Sometimes we stress over things unnecessarily and bring on added stresses, which only makes it harder for us.  We would benefit greatly if we take a lesson from zebras and keep your ‘stripes’ in order.

When the small storms of life accumulate, stress can build quicker than we realize.  Living in a fast-paced world where multitasking is the norm, it is easy to overlook the number of responsibilities we take on.  Stop for a moment and ask yourself if you are currently overloaded.  Have you taken on too much and if so, is it sustainable?  How long can you keep up this pace?  Are there any breaks in sight?

When life gets really busy and overwhelming, the natural remedy is a calm state of mind.  Of course this is easier said than done, but certainly possible.  Create pockets of calm by removing yourself physically and/or disengaging mentally for a while.  Withdraw your active working mind, take a few deep breaths, allow your mind to relax and the tension to settle.  Think about something positive that will help you through the moment and gradually, you will gain clarity and focus.  Act on this insight as it will give you the necessary strength to continue.  Calm is your ally.  Harness the power of calm whenever you can.

The date is officially set for Mind Master’s first Stress Management workshop!

Join us Monday June 4, 2012 for “Stressed Spelled Backwards is Desserts!“, a highly engaging and interactive 2 hour workshop, from 7:00 to 9:00 pm, at the David Lam Campus of Douglas College, 1250 Pinetree Way, Coquitlam in Room C1007.

This workshop is specially priced at $30 and is highly personalized with focus on your success.  Prior to the workshop, you will be contacted by telephone or e-mail to discuss your particular needs and expectations.   Join rich discussions in a fun and supportive learning environment to work towards greater balance and enjoyment in life!

Note: There is ample free parking on Pinetree Way and access to the classroom is conveniently located from the southwest end of the college.  This facility is wheelchair accessible.

Yesterday was the second public launching of Mind Master Training and I would like to thank all of you who came out to visit me at ‘Your Wellness Day Fair’ in Burnaby.   It was truly an honour to take part in Mental Health week and to be so well received by the public and industry professionals.  The continuous stream of interest confirms that mental fitness is very important to many of us, so here are 3 more strategies for staying sharp:

1. Maintain stress.  Too much stress takes away from our ability to work effectively and make good decisions.  Be aware of when you are feeling overloaded and take steps to reduce your stress.

2. Eat healthy!  Make good choices so that your brain continues to work at its very best.  I choose foods rich in Omega 3 essential fatty acids such as wild salmon and foods rich in antioxidants such as deeply hued fruits and vegetables.

3. Make sure you get adequate sleep.  Sleep allows the brain to recharge, repair and even form new connections!

Although I am not a nutritionist or an expert on sleep, the last two tips are well researched facts that work very well for me.  In addition, they offer the added benefit of no harmful side effects and who can argue with that?!  We have nothing to lose and everything to gain by ensuring that our minds stay sharp!

I don’t know about you, but I love sharp pencils.  I mean the wooden kind that you need to manually sharpen by spinning in what else, but a pencil sharpener!  I love watching the thin curly shaving roll out and then pulling my pencil out to reveal its very sharp tip.  Sharpness is admirable and desirable, both with pencils and the human mind.

If you want to stay as sharp as my pencils, the trick is to exercise your brain.  Your brain is a muscle just like any other muscle in your body.  The phrase “Use it or lose it” applies just as much to your brain as it does to other muscles in your body.  You can exercise your brain in many ways and I have listed 3 of my favourite ways here:

1.  Read and learn something new everyday.  Seek new information that you passionate about exploring to expand your thinking and grow your insights.

2.  Break away from habits that have become easy and don’t require much thought.  Use your non-dominant hand to write or carry out a task.  I sometimes use my left hand to write notes and brush my teeth.

3.  Go for a cardio workout to get extra blood flowing to your brain.  This helps to clear the cobwebs and relieve any stress you may have.

Staying sharp does not need to be time-consuming or difficult.  Find fun ways to engage your mind and you will stay sharp long after the life of my beloved pencils!