Giving and receiving are crucial when it comes to living with an open heart. To understand this clearly, think about a tree and how it continually receives support from the sun, rain, and earth while it openly gives support to birds, insects, fungi, ferns and moss in its surroundings. Giving and receiving are parts of the whole. Giving comes naturally from within.
Ask yourself “What do I have to give?” Think about your passions, talents, gifts, and skills you have developed. Perhaps you would love to teach children, volunteer at an animal shelter, take dogs for a walk, reduce waste on our planet or create a beautiful garden in your neighbourhood! Follow your open heart and what excites you!
The path of an open heart focuses on giving and receiving within and with all. When you free yourself from suffering, your life energy naturally elevates. Create a flow within and between yourself and others. Consider your strengths and inherent gifts. Ask yourself “How can I help?” See what arises in your mind. It may involve the earth, wild animals, family, friends, neighbours and community. Whatever it is, follow your heart and spark within! Your light will shine both within yourself and the world at large!
True dialogue is essential for strong and healthy relationships. Having an open heart supports loving-kindness and unconditional acceptance. As a result, feeling a deeper connection with others naturally arises. Notice when you feel easy, relaxed and naturally flowing. This is one of the most precious gifts you can give yourself and others! Congratulations!
When engaged in face to face conversations, it is important that you maintain eye contact and do not look away. Allowing distractions lowers the level of connection and as a result, you may disconnect entirely not hearing what the other person is saying at all. A sense of restlessness have have emerged, so at times like this it is important to take a deep breath and bring yourself back fully to the present moment with other.
As mentioned in previous posts, true dialogue begins with an open heart. Patience and unconditional acceptance without interjections is crucial for strengthening bonds. Notice when you interrupt the other person while they are speaking and take the conversation back to yourself. This act impedes the natural flow of conversational unfolding. True dialogue flows beautifully like water, at least until it hits a dam! Oh darn it!
Broaden conversations by allowing differences with others. Let go of dualistic thinking and any judgements you may hold with the concept of good/bad, right/wrong, better/worse and shift to a place of neutral acceptance. There is no need to alter other peoples’ perspectives, teach them or fix them. You do not need to give advice either unless they ask for it. Simply remain open and loving with an accepting heart.
Respond wisely. Rather than reacting, bring awareness to the present moment and observe what arises within. Relay it back to the other person in a neutral way. For example, if your friend shares challenges during their day, you may observe similar experiences and share the lessons you learned from it. Bridging words and experiences with another is key for strengthening relationships.
Listen well. Deep listening is a gift to others. To be able to listen fully is to let go of self and be fully present for the other person, even when they are sharing their feelings. When your intent is to resonate truly with your friend, the two of you can bond stronger in significant ways. A sense of unity and connection arises for both as feelings of separation disappear. It is only when we feel heard, seen and cared for that we have the courage and curiosity to move beyond feeling stuck in life!
Mutual giving from the heart is the foundation of true dialogue. Communicating with an open mind and heart is sure to enhance personal experiences in life. Notice when judgement and feelings of separation arise within. It is important to ground and center yourself with a quiet mind and relaxed, receptive body. Heart resonance is essential when it coms to strengthening relationships that are most important to you!
A wonderful way to enhance personal experiences in life is by bringing mindful awareness to your conversation habits. True dialogue is an art that is created by the interactive dynamic of individuals involved. In order to improve relationships and enhance your inner experience with those who are important in your life, notice when limiting habits come to the surface and shift to essential practices covered in this True Dialogue series.
Notice when you divert strong feelings from others and become analytical, rationalizing the situation. Questions and comments such as “When did that happen?” or “Maybe it’s because … ” blocks connection by hindering the other persons flow of sharing. Stay present in the moment with an open heart and continue to listen to get a better understanding of the other person. Attunement is key for developing stronger, healthier relationships.