Emotions come and go. Sometimes they flow through us and other times become stuck. Anger, anxiety, fear and sadness can overwhelm us and when they do, it is crucial to mindfully step into pro-active choices for self. One of the most beneficial ways of freeing yourself is having a trusted friend or confidante to release your truths in the moment. Connect with those you feel comfortable being fully honest with. Make an agreement with these special people in your life so you can call them in times of need. Knowing that you always have a trusted support person can be the turning point for ultimate freedom!
Move through fear. If you tend to worry, make excuses, be evasive or try to control a person or situation, ask yourself what you are afraid of. Take time to meditate in stillness and go beyond surface layers to allow fear to arise as a physical sensation in your body. Acknowledge its presence and then pay attention to the story you tell yourself that supports this fear.
For instance, if you are afraid of losing a relationship because the other person might reject you and then discover your underlying fear is based on the belief that you are not good enough, shift to a place of 100% self-acceptance. This fear of not being good enough is usually derived from early childhood experiences. As a full grown adult now, believe that you are more than good enough, even if the relationship ends. See it as a part of the the flow of life. This is crucial for freeing yourself and the gift is that you will come to love yourself even more and no longer suffer as much, relying on externals to uplift you. Regardless of what is happening in your environment and who is present, you will feel perfect, whole and complete! Love yourself!
See yourself as constantly changing and ever evolving. Endings and beginnings are a normal, healthy part of your evolution. Letting go of old limiting stories that inhibit your sense of freedom is way of invoking endings and mindfully adopting new healthier perspectives nourishes new vibrant beginnings for you. Believe that you are much more than you know. Allow your authentic self to gradually emerge with every cycle of growth. Your spirit within will guide you to ultimate freedom!
Elevate yourself and all of your experiences! Allow yourself to speak your truth to others. Doing so brings a higher level of integrity back into your life. You are now able to truly walk your talk, integrating both your inner and outer worlds in amazing ways. Release any old limiting stories cycling through your mind and replace them with new positive, uplifting statements such as “I love and accept all parts of myself!”
Bond with people who exude power and joy. Spend lots of time with uplifting friends and acquaintances who energize you. Be mindful about the amount of time you spend with those who are stuck in negativity, endless misery and helplessness. This can evoke darkness, doubt and negativity within. Focus instead on what you want to experience in life and what brings you greater joy!
Bring awareness to rising emotions. When dark feelings surface, such as anxiety, fear, anger, or sadness, be aware of how they impact your thinking mind. Emotions naturally trigger rationalization, justifying and trying to make sense of things. These thoughts are largely based on old reactive patterns which are often limiting forces in life. Free yourself by shifting away from old habits in the moment. Open your mind to a whole new way of seeing and perceiving things. Take time to consider the long term effects of your behaviour patterns and potential consequences. When you commit to freeing yourself more and more each day, freedom can be your new reality!
In order to truly feel free and flow with life, there are some important steps we need to take in manifesting this new style of living. Over the next several weeks, there will be essential tips and practices that will help transform experiences in profound ways!
Begin by bringing awareness to the mind and rising thoughts. Notice whenever negativity enters your mind through helpless thinking and victimization. Shift in the moment by asking yourself “What can I do?” and open your mind to possibilities. Ponder what you do not know about the situation, then mindfully commit to taking one positive step forward. Shifting to proactive thinking supports a natural sense of freedom and power within!
Be a part of the bigger picture in life, beyond self. Embrace the larger community, including all those who are near and far. Mindfully contribute to a more balanced world with greater love and connections. Bring wellness to all through compassion, kindness and an open heart. Flow with light and life!
Be lighthearted. Laugh at the silliness of things! Don’t judge, compare or feel lesser or better than others. See yourself and your life as part of a great ecosystem where all contrasts are natural components of life. Simply maintain a state of relaxed presence with a kind and open heart. Having a sense of humour helps life flow more easily and also helps you to flow joyously with life!
Stretch yourself! Accept challenges as they arise and walk through discomfort one step at a time, maintaining focus on the bigger picture. As mentioned in the last post, life is an adventure. All adventures lead you into new terrain with new experiences and opportunities to expand and discover your authentic self. The inner journey is most important in life, more important than the external one. Have confidence in your capacity to overcome any challenge and this will be your new reality!