The second noble truth reveals that life is painful or difficult because of our attachments. When we stick to certain ideals of what life ‘should’ be like, we create pain for ourselves. The incongruency between our mind and the reality of the moment brings added tension. Instead of accepting what is actually happening, there is resistance which results in stress, strain and struggle. Surrendering to the flow of life is essential in order to experience more peace in life.
For instance, if you believe your children should not argue, you can fume in frustration or accept what is happening and collaborate a solution that yields win-win outcomes. Or if you expect yourself to be emotionally stable during a family meeting and anger arises, you can push away the pain or excuse yourself and allow time to release your pain in an appropriate manner that serves the greater good. The choice is always there.