Assertiveness is a valuable skill that is worth its’ weight in gold!  Being mindful when asserting yourself means knowing how you feel and having the ability to communicate your feelings to the other person, tactfully and respectfully.  Practice saying what you need to say with the intention of maintaining harmony or negotiating a compromise.  Focus on win-win outcomes.

Use ‘I-statements’ without the need to defend or confront the other person.  For example, “I feel sad when you talk to me in that tone”.  You do not need to explain yourself unless you choose to do so.  Simply let the other person know how you were affected by their words and actions.